How To Become a Pick Up Artist

Understanding women.

Is it possible?

Or is it illusion?

My fellow men ask me about ” picking up women ” and “how to become a pick up artist ” and other such things frequently .

But the truth of the matter for all of these kind of questions is there is no “dating guru” that can give you any better advice than good old “experience”.

But of course the next question is how do you get experience if you don’t know how to meet women?

You meet women, approach women, and observe women any way you can  for as long as it takes to get comfortable with the topic. Then when you are comfortable you date women, date women, date women. It is called serial dating.

And when I wrote my first book, “How I Got 700 Dates In One Year”, some people thought I was nuts.

I guess I should explain. I am not a cheater and don’t believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sensibly selecting a partner.

Now I would be the first one to agree that a person who “multiple” or “serial” dates with no intention of ever doing anything else would have at least some major “relating” issues.

But, serial dating applied in the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the opposite. Serial dating done to get a better understanding of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you like, and what you like, and what kinds of people like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.

What do you think most parents told their teenage sons and daughters?

“Don’t get too serious with one person. You need to meet and date different people.

It may seem childish, but this teenage advice is what most adults who are dating need to remember.

First of all, most adults never followed their parents’ advice and dated lots of people. Most people seem to have a pattern of hooking up with the first “acceptable” person who shows them some real interest.

Unfortunately, there is a big difference between “acceptable” and “ideal” and also unfortunately most people ordinarily continue this pattern of hooking up with the first “acceptable” person who comes along well into adulthood.

We call this “compromising” or “settling” and in the last analysis it leads to unhappiness in relationships, and a failure to understand the opposite sex.

Most of us didn’t realize when we were teenagers that there are all sorts of people in the world – different personalities, different likes and dislikes. We didn’t realize that if we met enough people we actually could meet someone who was exactly right for us.

Most of us didn’t even understand our own personality and what what would be a good match for us. We founded our ideas of what a good match was off of Television and movies and magazzines. You see most of us just lacked experience with the opposite sex.

But the cure for all of this is not very complex. You see, when you meet and date a lot of different people a natural learning process emerges. It is called experience. No matter how dumb you are, you figure it out sooner or later. Some people sooner. Some people later. You can learn about anything this way, and there is no better teacher.

And believe it or not, that is all us “dating gurus” have ever done. We have just gone out and got a lot of experience.

Mom and Dad’s teenage words of wisdom are good for everyone – or at least a lot of us. There are a few people out there who seem to know what they want at an early age and don’t need to figure it out. But for the rest of us. Let’s just listen to good old mom and dad.